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badgolferman <REMOVETHISbadgolferman@gmail.com> wrote:
> Ted H wrote:
> 
>> On Tue, 23 Jun 2026 00:48:38 -0000 (UTC),
>> badgolferman <REMOVETHISbadgolferman@gmail.com> wrote:
>> 
>>> Last night during the meeting several people expressed their 
>>> sadness that I was leaving the area and how much they 
>>> appreciated my shares and presence. It was actually quite 
>>> embarrassing to me and I wished they would stop and go back to 
>>> the topic.
>> 
>> I don't know what I would have done, but I learned in my inventory 
>> that unwillingness to accept genuine compliments was a character 
>> defect.  I still stuggle to simply say "thank you" rather than 
>> deny it.
> 
> 
> Last night before the meeting an ex-home group member of my group
> approached me and told me how much he appreciated me including him in
> some of our motorcycle rides and our conversations about AA principles
> and general service.  He was sad to see me leave.
> 
> I was quite surprised by this because I had convinced myself he left
> the home group becaue of me.  One night had told him the group
> conscience was to read from the *real* Big Book, not the Plain Language
> Big Book.  He's taken a liking to that book and would read from it when
> it was his turn.  That pissed off several people so I felt it necessary
> to tell him about the book, but I didn't tell him about the people.  He
> quit the group shortly after that, claiming it didn't "meet his needs"
> anymore.
> 
> After the meeting last night I tried to ask him the real reason he left
> the group, but we were interrupted by someone else and that
> conversation got too long so I left it alone.  I figured that was God's
> way of telling me it wasn't my business.
> 

One of the first things I learned in sobriety is that while I was always
concerned with whether people were thinking well or badly of me, the
painful truth is that most of time they weren’t thinking about me at all.

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honored badgolferman <REMOVETHISbadgolferman@gmail.com> - 2026-06-23 00:48 +0000
  Re: honored Mark Warner <mhwarner.inhibitions@gmail.com> - 2026-06-22 20:59 -0400
    Re: honored "Charlie M. 1958" <always@impaitient.com> - 2026-06-22 20:41 -0500
      Re: honored badgolferman <REMOVETHISbadgolferman@gmail.com> - 2026-06-23 11:25 +0000
      Re: honored Where there are always 62 days to go <not@this.juncture.com> - 2026-06-23 08:29 -0400
    Re: honored "S. LaRocca" <blutofarts@bigwind.org> - 2026-06-23 09:15 -0400
      Re: honored "badgolferman" <REMOVETHISbadgolferman@gmail.com> - 2026-06-23 18:34 +0000
        Re: honored Sharx335 <sharx35@telus.net> - 2026-06-23 12:41 -0600
        Re: honored Ted H <theise@panix.com> - 2026-06-25 14:42 +0000
    Re: honored Ted H <theise@panix.com> - 2026-06-23 13:57 +0000
      Re: honored Mark Warner <mhwarner.inhibitions@gmail.com> - 2026-06-23 15:55 -0400
  Re: honored Ted H <theise@panix.com> - 2026-06-23 14:03 +0000
    Re: honored "badgolferman" <REMOVETHISbadgolferman@gmail.com> - 2026-06-24 14:35 +0000
      Re: honored Charlie M. 1958 <always@impatient.com> - 2026-06-24 14:41 +0000
        Re: honored Mark Warner <mhwarner.inhibitions@gmail.com> - 2026-06-24 14:22 -0400
          Re: honored badgolferman <REMOVETHISbadgolferman@gmail.com> - 2026-06-24 18:52 +0000
            Re: honored Mark Warner <mhwarner.inhibitions@gmail.com> - 2026-06-24 17:09 -0400
            Re: honored Charlie M. 1958 <always@impatient.com> - 2026-06-24 21:39 +0000
        Re: honored Ted Heise <theise@panix.com> - 2026-06-25 14:46 +0000
          Re: honored Charlie M. 1958 <always@impatient.com> - 2026-06-25 17:00 +0000
          Re: honored Where there are always 62 days to go <not@this.juncture.com> - 2026-06-26 12:33 -0400
            Re: honored Charlie M. 1958 <always@impatient.com> - 2026-06-26 19:52 +0000
            Re: honored Mark Warner <mhwarner.inhibitions@gmail.com> - 2026-06-26 15:53 -0400
              Re: honored Ted H <theise@panix.com> - 2026-06-27 14:44 +0000

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