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Re: a cautionary tale

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>> Haven't talked to her much this week.  In the past I'd be feeling 
>> guilty or something, like I'm avoiding her.  Not now.  I really have 
>> had it with this.  We have a few dozen more band gigs on current 
>> contracts. Past those, I'm ready to let it go.  Ease out, spend a year 
>> painting my house or something, then go back into it as a solo only.
> 
> That would be tragic. Why not just let her know that she's feeling 
> somewhat disoriented because she's spent so much time in the Sewer with 
> the Low Life Losers and now that she's out of it, it's not a familiar 
> feeling right now, yet...BUT IT WILL BE if she just sticks it out and 
> takes the right attitude because if she does, she'll learn to recognize 
> that she'll never want to go back to that Sewer...ever again!
> 
>> There's just too much effort involved in trying to get someone who self 
>> describes their behavior as " pig headed " to go where they don't want 
>> to. Even if they are possibly only doing the stubborn to get attention.
> 
> Nothing wrong with being pig headed, but pigs are intelligent 
> creatures, and the choice to go deaf while making as many others as 
> possible also go deaf in the process is anything but intelligent, or 
> even considerate, but rather downright Stupid and Hostile!
> And there are more worthy ways to get attention than that!!!
> 
>> Too much work.  Far easier to just play smaller gigs on my own.
> 
> JimD
> 
> Hopefully it'll never come to that but if it does, perhaps then she 
> *might* possibly get to see reality a bit more clearly.
> Maybe she's been playing enough gigs now where the levels are more 
> sensible and safer so that should she ever get back with the Losers, of 
> hearing and gigs, that they'll now be too loud for her ;)
> 
> Ouisie

I had a decent talk with her today. I was driving to a solo gig, she 
home was doing whatever.   She started telling me about some young 
relative of hers who is about to ruin her life ( move in with some 
loser ). Told me it is tragic, that she wanted to warn the young girl 
off, but realized it was a waste of time.

I said I feel her pain, that anguish of knowing something, trying to 
get others to take advantage of my hard earned wisdom, yet watching 
them ignore me.  She knew EXACTLY what I was talking about, said so. 
Then it came out. She told me she simply doesn't believe we are too 
loud. Said that she doesn't believe the management when they say there 
are volume complaints. She just doesn't believe anyone is complaining.  
Because in her opinion ..... we're not too loud.

So that's it.  Nothing will change her mind.  She, she ...... she 
.....SHE ..... wants loud and the audience be damned.


I replied that I see now it was a mistake to say " we're too loud ".  
That is opinion.  In this case, it's my opinion.  Saying we're " too 
loud " is a judgment thing.  Everyone would have their own idea of what 
" right " is.  What would have been better would to have said the 
customer wants the music lower.  Move it from personal opinion to 
simply the job requirements.

If she wants to work for someone, then she'll need to meet their 
expectations.  Money for service rendered.

Don't like that ?   Fine.  She can stay home and feel morally superior.

I'll move on and be out there playing, and being paid for the same.


JimD

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a cautionary tale Jim D <Not@ThisAddress.com> - 2019-04-10 23:52 -0400
  Re: a cautionary tale Jim D <Not@ThisAddress.com> - 2019-04-11 10:14 -0400
    Re: a cautionary tale "Ouisie" <someone@anywheret.net> - 2019-04-14 17:24 -0500
      Re: a cautionary tale Jim D <Not@ThisAddress.com> - 2019-04-16 12:55 -0400
        Re: a cautionary tale "Ouisie" <someone@anywheret.net> - 2019-04-16 14:38 -0500
          Re: a cautionary tale Jim D <Not@ThisAddress.com> - 2019-04-18 12:05 -0400
            Re: a cautionary tale "Ouisie" <someone@anywheret.net> - 2019-04-20 19:29 -0500
              Re: a cautionary tale Jim D <Not@ThisAddress.com> - 2019-04-21 10:01 -0400
                Re: a cautionary tale "Ouisie" <someone@anywheret.net> - 2019-04-21 13:21 -0500
                Re: a cautionary tale Jim D <Not@ThisAddress.com> - 2019-04-22 15:02 -0400
                Re: a cautionary tale "Ouisie" <someone@anywheret.net> - 2019-04-22 17:08 -0500
                Re: a cautionary tale Jim D <Not@ThisAddress.com> - 2019-04-23 19:04 -0400
                Re: a cautionary tale "Ouisie" <someone@anywheret.net> - 2019-04-24 08:41 -0500
                Re: a cautionary tale Jim D <Not@ThisAddress.com> - 2019-04-25 12:08 -0400
                Re: a cautionary tale "Ouisie" <someone@anywheret.net> - 2019-04-27 20:53 -0500
                Re: a cautionary tale Jim D <Not@ThisAddress.com> - 2019-04-28 13:23 -0400
                Re: a cautionary tale "Ouisie" <someone@anywheret.net> - 2019-04-28 18:46 -0500
                Re: a cautionary tale Jim D <Not@ThisAddress.com> - 2019-04-30 16:56 -0400
                Re: a cautionary tale "Ouisie" <someone@anywheret.net> - 2019-05-01 07:44 -0500
                Re: a cautionary tale Jim D <Not@ThisAddress.com> - 2019-05-13 10:49 -0400
                Re: a cautionary tale "Ouisie" <someone@anywheret.net> - 2019-05-13 17:55 -0500

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